According to a recent study, 42% of all marriages in the UK end in divorce, but it’s a different picture in other parts of the world. In the United Arab Emirates, for example, for every 1,000 married Emiratis, just 2.44 get divorced. Making the decision to call it a day on a relationship can be tough, and there are lots of things you need to take into consideration before you make it official. Below, we’ve put together some of the biggest to help you on your journey…
Decide whether it’s over
It’s so easy to get stuck in a rut with your partner or even fall out of love with them after living together for so long, but it’s important to be sure whether the relationship is actually over before you decide to take the next step. If there’s love left, or you have commitments such as a mortgage and kids, and you genuinely think there’s a possibility of salvaging your marriage, consider counseling and speak to your friends and family for guidance. It’s worth giving it one last shot before you quit – it could just be the best thing you ever do as a couple.
Telling your loved ones
If there really is no way out other than divorce, consider how you’d broach the subject with your loved ones such as your children and parents. Divorce can be an incredibly emotional time, as you’re not only grieving the end of a relationship but in some cases the end of a family unit. Make some time to consider how you’re going to tell them and make sure you are in the right emotional headspace on the day. You might need to be there for them just as much as they’ll need to be there for you, so prepare yourself for an unexpected reaction.
Consider the legalities
Depending on where in the world you are, divorcing could be a long and drawn-out process, so consider the legalities and consider hiring professional help before you make it official. If you’re an expat living in the UAE, for example, then you’ll have to get to grips with marital law in another country, so we recommend hiring a lawyer in Dubai to ensure you’re working within the law and come out if it in the best possible way both financially and emotionally.
Think about the separation
Before you discuss divorce with your partner, think about the actual separation process and consider making preparations in advance. For example, will you need to move out of the family home overnight? Do you have enough personal savings to sustain your lifestyle until a divorce settlement comes through? Where will you live? Who’ll get the house? Although the truth is that divorce sets you off into the world of the unknown, having some idea of what will happen next will ensure you’re not left out in the cold. Set up a new bank account and email address, confide in a friend who can support you, find somewhere to stay in the short-term.
Focus on the positives
Whatever the circumstances, divorce can be an incredibly grueling time, but it’s important to think about why you’re doing it and focus on the positives. You’ll have more freedom, free time, and eventually, you’ll be able to put yourself back onto the dating scene. Life is far too short to waste it with someone who doesn’t make you happy. Have confidence that you’re making the right decision and roll with it; don’t waste time or energy looking back at the past.
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